Getting back in after three years off and I completely understand the frustation. I see a lot of competitive lists and I was looking more for a friendly game last weekend. My opponent was a good player and he was a good sport but it felt like he was trying to beat me down with his list that had a lot of stuff that I was unfamiliar with. I have mostly researched batreps on youtube and just slowly started back. I talk fluff and lists with the guys at the shop when I can and I think it can be very intimidating trying to get back in. I am still trying to figure out the new force org. Good luck and hopefully we can hear how your progress goes.