What I was actually doing was trying to highlight that what you said there was kinda weirdly personal and, yes, did sound like you were saying she doesn't know what it's like to be able to judge feminist issues.
And as someone who has experience the modern world as a woman and perceived as a man, I can say that it's a helluva lot ****tier for women, and that most men will say they are good people but do nothing to stop bad behaviour and shout down those who try to as it's "just a joke", "there aren't any girls around to hear it" and all that.