Originally Posted by
Necron2.0
Right. I said "assuming there were no threats of harm (physical or otherwise)." What I was referring to above as something I would not consider to be rape is something akin to the "negotiations" over sex that most married and/or long time lovers would be quite familiar with. Sometimes at the end of a long day, you just don't have the energy, or you just might not be into it at the time. Maybe you've really been thinking all day about getting that army painted. And then, the love of your life stands in the door of your man-cave/sanctum sanctorum in the fishnets, the studded leather and holding a can of whipped cream. At that point, if you're smart, you'll just put the paint brush down, screw up your courage, have a double espresso, man up and saddle up, because trust me, if you don't, at some time in the future, when your moment of need comes, she will remember.
Now, obviously the example you cited, EG, would be rape, because the threat of active aggression (in this case mental/social as opposed to physical) is being used to overcome the resistance of a truly unwilling partner.